I recently saw the new movie “About My Father.” The family comedy stars stand-up comedian Sebastian Maniscalco and is a semi-autobiographical script based on Maniscalco’s relationship with his dad, played by Robert De Niro. With Father’s Day right around the corner, it was the perfect time to enjoy some laughs about one’s well meaning father.
As I watched the heartfelt movie, it inspired me to reflect on the relationship with my dad. In honor of Father’s Day, why not write an article comparing my dad to Robert De Niro’s role? Who wouldn’t want their father played by De Niro in a movie? Right?
The film had many relatable moments including my dad’s handsome looks and charming personality that was similar to De Niro’s character. If I had to cast my dad in a movie, it would either be Robert Redford or Chevy Chase. He’s kind of a combo. If you met him, you’d understand.
The stand out similarity was De Niro’s delivery of unsolicited advice accompanied by anecdotes. You see, my dad is the king of lectures. Almost every conversation has a life lecture, wisdom tidbit or a creative acronym to remember his slice of advice. If I call to just say hi, the topic of conversation somehow circles back to a mini speech on an unrelated topic like health, politics or life values. It’s all good advice, but sometimes the cliff notes would suffice. Admittedly, I have inherited this trait. I apologize in advance to my friends and to my column readers. I can be long winded. Even though I poke fun at this mannerism, it’s all good advice and well received from me and others that have the honor of listening to his slew of lengthy speeches.
The meaningful message that’s relayed in this movie suggests that parents make us who we become. If they’re good parents, their lessons and guidance mold us into good human beings
I realize this isn’t an absolute, but it’s the truth in my upbringing.
Here are a few of my dad’s noteworthy quotes and the effect they had on me. Most of these were followed by long lectures:
- “You have one reputation. Once it’s ruined, it’s gone.” (Thought about these words my whole life and have made mostly good choices.)
- “A car is for taking you from point A to point B. That’s it.” (Maybe this is why I’ve never wanted a fancy car and make practical purchases.)
- “You would look beautiful dressed in a paper bag.” (My confidence came from these words. My daddy made me feel pretty no matter what I was wearing.)
- “I never tried drugs. I wasn’t sure if I would have an addictive personality.” (I’ve never tried any drugs.)
When I wasn’t listening to his life’s lessons, I observed my dad’s actions as any other child would. He constantly does kind gestures for others. Sometimes they’re edible gifts or just sincere detailed thank you’s. He goes out of his way to appreciate his friends or people in the community. This is one of his best traits that I’ve inherited.
The other notable daddy’s girl characteristic would be his love of dance. He’s not embarrassed to bust his signature move that he calls the “choo choo train” to any of his favorite songs in front of anyone at any time. My passion for dance comes from him and neither of us can sit still to an ABBA song.
So, on this Father’s Day, let’s appreciate all the special things including the quirks about our dads. What has he taught you? Dance moves, a work ethic, a skill? At the end of the day, a good dad does everything for love. And I’m lucky to have been raised by one of the best.
Lee Belote, jlbelote@verizon.net
